The 1 abt ………an empty tin makes a lot of noise (Part 1)

This is one of the most personal topics from them all. Well how often do we hear people talk about us, how often do we hear rumors about ourselves. Well I had to deal with people talking about me for a while. I heard them all , “ Gay” , “think you better” , “teachers pet”, “spy” , and a lot of them. I am sure a lot of you went through the same thing but if you don’t, you were lucky, apparently its ever in the work place, so haven’t quite escaped it yet.

When I was in grade 8, it’s where it all started, new school, and new challenges. I was my own character and I wouldn’t change anything, that what I told myself. But the insults kept on coming, the more I tried to fight them, there they got intense. For two years it went on. Got involve in the church and that was the start of something that would ease the worst feeling any one can experience. I never spoke about it until one camp, spoke to someone, prayed with me. I began to keep my cool because one thing was for sure was that it wouldn’t last forever. The best quote that kept me from losing it was “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can’t harm me” (something of that nature). I think I told myself this every day. I started to develop an “I DON’T CARE” (IDC) attitude.

I got to high school, and guess what the same thing happened, at this point I had started to channel all the negativity to motivate me, which it helped for some time. I couldn’t take it anymore. It pushed me to the edge every time someone would say something. The thing about high school, they would tell you in your face, they don’t even hide it! That’s when things started to crumble. I knew that I was going to crash, and there was no way out. Someone said something profound, she said when people speak about you they are looking for a reaction or a response, just do not give them. Decided to try it. As much as they spoke, it still hurts, but I said nothing. My IDC attitude grew bigger and bigger each day. For some time it stopped. The sad part was that I had IDC attitude as a results of it all. This did affect my relationship with a lot of people especially my girl friend. I thank God for helping out on that one out.

People’s words hurt more that a knife on the skin. The thing about words they go deeper than a knife, words play over and over, words stay longer. During 2007 I was suicidal, more than anyone could know, because it was where I couldn’t take it anymore. Their words drove me to a point where I could have taken my life.

People will always have something to say about you, especially if you are different. People want to push to a point where you feel like you are no one, push you to a point you want to take your own life, I almost did. To ignore what people are saying is one of the most difficult things to do, merely because words are stronger than we think. I want to tell something, people will continue to speak until the day you die, and there is nothing we can do about it. What we can do is not to give the satisfaction that they want. You can either believe what they are saying or you can say my Heavenly father has plans for my life and he thinks highly of me and that what counts. I once heard that a dog will never bark at a car that is not in motion (moving), same thing if you are not progressing, people will not speak about you. When people start talking about you do this

1) Check if you are still in check with God and there is nothing wrong with what you are doing

2) Pray to God to deliver you from people. We need to understand that we can’t do it on our own; we need to let God be God. Remember some people will be dealt with God, let it be, and they will answer to God.

Before you say something, think about what if you where the person on the receiving ends. When they speak about someone, you can either choose not to take part or you can be part of the cause. If you choose to be part of the cause remember that you will account for what you are doing. I am not perfect, but one thing for sure I will never hurt someone there way I was hurt. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, because there scares are there and they will take a lot of years to heal, one word can make the wound worse.

When I read this scripture, it was so perfect for this blog.

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words are an encouragement to those hears them. Ephesians 4: 29

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My fellow brother and sisters let us not be empty tins that make noise, rather lets fill ourselves with Joy and happiness for the people around us!



God Bless