The 1 abt ………an empty tin makes a lot of noise (Part 2)

Hi Friends

I have started a series (it’s my first, and I am excited about it). Looking at the previous blog I spoke about the people speaking harsh words, even to a point I share my personal experience. This time I want to show you what happens when the foot is on the other shoe. For years I thought I was a victim, but now I realize that in more instance I was caused pain to others. Read Ephesians 4:29 as it has been the theme scripture.

When I got to high school, I was a victim, but I found my victim as well. For a good two years I was mean, bitter, rude and ugly to someone who didn’t deserve my stupid attitude. I made it a point that I would make his life a living hell. I think I reached a point where I had to prepare myself, I would tell myself “ if he says this I would say this” , I always had a comeback, I had to have the last laugh every time.

On Fridays I would go to youth and praise God as if I didn’t do anything. I went to church and damn did I pray. But come Monday morning, it was me and my victim. I would pay attention to what he was saying and I would look for a gap where I can tease or humiliate him. There was a day where I went too far, I said something to and people didn’t like it. I was heavily criticized for it, by my friends. I went home and for a second I thought my friends betrayed me , but when I looked a bit closer two years later I realized that I was wrong. I decided if the opportunity came I would apologized.

We often excuses for my obnoxious for our behavior. And as a person you reached a point where you ask yourself if it was worth it. I decided to leave things, be me and forget what has happen to and things will be fine.

When I reached varsity (2009) , I had told myself that this was a fresh start for me, but I was not soon enough where I met someone I didn’t like and we didn’t get along , this time we hated each other to a point that it would really affect my day. I realized that she was actually smarter than me, that made things a bit worst. She would ask the most odd questions in class and I would seriously get irritated about it. The thing about these questions, they would seem very stupid, but turns out she was helping herself, she was one of the “A” students. And I didn’t like her. My relationship with God during the year was very good to a point I would hear him speaking in certain areas of my life. One morning, I heard God telling me to go up to her and apologize to her. I was stunned and I couldn’t believe what God was asking me to do, I said nothing to her except through my thoughts, so now I am told to apologize to her. So I walked up to and I apologized to her. As times went by I realized that there was nothing wrong with her but the Lord taught me a valuable lesson which I want to share with you.

The power of the tongue. How often do we say thing to people and they are not the kindest words available? I did that to two people in the space of 4 years. The reason I did, I can’t seem to explain it.

In Proverbs 18 : 21 reads : “Words kill, words give life; they're either poison or fruit—you choose.” [The Message]

Ones words could be doing two things namely:

1) Planting a seed

With our words we could be planting a seed in someone’s life. The seed can be a seed of lack of self esteem, or a lack of self image. Whichever the case. We will be held accountable for the seeds we plant in people’s life. We do not know what they get up to when they are alone, words sink deeper than we think and it hurts a lot. There is a huge possible that they will meet with other people and who will water the seed we have planted, by saying other harsh word, even worse than what we said. That will cause even more pain to that person. Ultimately it comes back to what I said.

2) Watering a seed.

Well my word can also be watering something that was already there. They are a lot of people out there who make it a point that they make other peoples live a living hell, and I was one of them. And they plant seeds. I planted a seed and I feel really bad about it , to a point that I regret because someone will come and add someone words to what I had said (watering a plant). When I say mean things I could be adding to what someone has already said before me.

So my advice to you is to be careful of the word you speak to someone because you do not know how it will affect their life in the long run. We need to establish the facts that people are influenced by the things we say and both in the negative and the positive way. I choose to speak life than death for someone, in that way you have made a positive impact.



Kind Blessing and God Bless!