The 1 abt……“friends”

Well this is one of the most controversial topic ever, it has been discussed over and over again to a point we (teens) do not listen anymore! We have has heard them all, from “Friends are bad for you” to “those are bad friends”. Honestly enough our parents have been through a lot, that is explainable, but sometimes okay most of the times they miss the mark. The trick about friends that you have to learn about picking them so that if you pick the wrong one, you learn from it. That is my primary objective about choosing the one!



I consider myself one of the luckiest people, because I can make friends easy with some people. I will be honest making friends with females is easy than making friends with other males ( That’s me) , I’ve grown up around girls , I am the only male my age, others are too old others are too young. But never the less I try to make friends. December 2008, I prayed to God to help with friends I told him that I have a problem with making friends. When I got to P.E (Read the previous blog), God placed a lot of guys around me. It was then an opportunity for me to making friends and yes they were males. The thing about God he placed both the Good people and the Bad; this was an opportunity for me to see what is Good for me and what is not.

The people who you call friend, are they your friends? Often we say we have friends, but we will also that we are lonely, how is that possible if we have friends? We have been talking about a friend let define friend. I will define what a friend to me is and you can email me your definition of friend (usp.onge14@gmail.com). A friend is some one you get to now on a personal basis, someone who you can count on. He or she will let you down, but it rarely happens and if it happens its beyond his or her control (not every time). A FRIEND is that person who will tell you where to get off when needed, he or she will tell when I mess up and will encourage me when I need to. A friend is some who will pray who will put my interest first than his or hers. A friend is there to let me make the mistake, has warned me before and is there to suffer with me when I have burnt myself. A friend will make me laugh when I do not want to even if it hurts. They will listen to me when I am not making sense. They will understand my craziness in the midst of it all. Well that my definition. This will not apply to everyone, because we are not the same. We all have our definition of friends, but our (or my mistake) we are quick to look for people who will be our friends. How often do you hear people say they want to be friends to some? We need to be friends before people can be our friend.



Like it or not friends will always influence us, whether it big as peer pressure or as small as Character. If you do not believe me, ask yourself this: how often do I do things because my friends are doing it ( can be good or bad) or better yet how often do you say something your friend has said? If your friends are not influencing you, then you should ask yourself if they are doing their job.

You must be confused; well I do not blame you. I confuse myself more often than you think! Here are some points you can take with you:

1) Be a friend before you have your friend: People want to know that they can be comfortable with you. They also want to now that they can trust you. By being you and being the friend you want them to be it becomes very easy for them to be the friend they need.

2) Choose your own friends: Often enough we are told that some people are bad for us or something. God will place a lot of people around you. It is then up to you to choose them. The are bad people out there, and some are good. Remember Bad Company spoils good character (scripture).

3) Be ready to be influenced: Friends are they to help you out and you are there to help them out. Do not deprive yourself from learning from other people. You learn every day and by spending time with friends you learn a lot from other people and their character. People also learn from you. Do not compromise yourself in the process. A friend wills not what is good for you but you know better. You know what’s best for you! You will be responsible for what you choose, always keep that in mind.

There is not art to choose friends. Its like taking an apple from a tree, it may look pretty from the outside but it taste really terrible, or even look so terrible and taste so sweet. There are a lot of people who need a chance, they have been judge so much so many time. I am guilty of judging people. I admit I have selected certain individual to be my friend, because of who they are like I choose not to be friends with people that are not save at one point in my life. I can make such decision on friends. As from now on I choose friends because I have the opportunity to make an impact in someone’s life. What important to me is this:

• To be a friend to some one whom I can get to now personally.

• Someone who you can count on me.

• Someone I will try not to let him or her down

• I want to be a FRIEND that will be able tell you where to get off when needed,

• Some who I can honestly when she or he has messed up with out judging

• Some I can encourage when they need to be.

• Some I can pray with

• Some I can put his or her interest first then mine...

• Some one I can let make his or her mistakes, even if I gave my advice and I will be there pick up the pieces together.

• I want to be a friend that will make you laugh when you need to or even if it hurts.

• I want to listen to you even if it does not make sense.

• I will understand your craziness in the midst of it all.



This is my c.v for being a friend will you let me ? I promise not to fail you.